alright for the new guys first get the bigger one i found i was a little too big for this one but it worked out fine in the end. second do not just go to town on it and like some ape on roids this one works better with nice long slow strokes and by god you will feel everything and then wonder why you even bothered with trying to have sex with a female. while the lube sponge did pop out of one of the sides it did not hinder the performance of this item though if you want to get full value i would plane on whacking it out for at least two hours. time to go try another one of this things.