4 Ways Sex Toys are Great for Your Relationship

If you are in a relationship, you might be hesitant to add sex toys into partnered sex. You may even feel guilty masturbating without your partner. However, there is no reason to feel this way. In fact, the addition of sex toys to your love life is a fantastic way to spice up your relationship with benefits that extend both in and out of the bedroom.

Let’s take a closer look at ways sex toys can be a great addition to your relationship.


Using Sex Toys to Increase Pleasure

Whether using sex toys during mutual masturbation, or investing in a toy designed for partnered use, adding toys into your sex life is a nearly guaranteed way to ensure pleasure for both you and your partner.

Sex toys can also be used as a form of foreplay to build arousal and increase both intimacy and connection between partners. Research has found that using sex toys as a couple can be beneficial to health. In one study, using sex toys such as vibrators “increased sexual desire, satisfaction, and overall sexual function.” This increase in satisfaction from the use of sex toys was shown to improve the subjects blood flow and muscle tone. Sex toys can also be used by men to aid in alleviating the symptoms of erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.

In addition to the above mentioned physical benefits, using sex toys with your partner has favorable benefits to one’s relationships as well. Incorporating toys in the bedroom, whether they are designed for couples or for personal use, is one way to create a healthy dialogue around sex, aiding couples in expressing what they enjoy as individuals when they are together. In fact, effective communication during sex not only improves satisfaction in bed but satisfaction in all aspects of a relationship, which is certainly something worth striving for!

Connections between Sex Toys and Performance Pressure

The pressure to please your partner in bed may overshadow the pleasures and benefits sex has to offer. This can lead to you or your partner feeling unsatisfied and even discouraged after sex.

According to one study published in the Sexual Medicine Reviews Journal, Sexual Performance Anxiety (SPA) is considered to be the most common of sexual disorders affecting 9–25% of men and 6-16% of women. Cognitive behavior therapy and mindfulness meditation therapy have been tested and proven effective on a controlled number of patients.

One way to alleviate Sexual Performance Anxiety is to incorporate sex toys into your relationship. Using toys during sex with your partner increases the chance of orgasm, thus reducing the pressure to perform. TENGA offers a variety of items designed for partnered use. The TENGA Smart Vibe Series is a great choice to deepen the connection between you and your loved one.

Learning About Your Body with Sex Toys

Masturbation is an essential way to strengthen your relationship with your body, and as a result strengthen your relationship with your partner. Getting to know your body through masturbation, including what does and doesn’t make you feel good, is often the first step to building a full and pleasurable sex life. Masturbation not only helps you understand your personal preferences but is a form of self care that if practiced can help boost your self image. As you learn more about what makes you feel good, you will start to pay attention and realize more and more things that please your partner, bolstering your physical relationship.

Moreover, sex is something you can practice. Just like playing a sport or an instrument, you can’t expect to hit a home run every inning, or to perfectly execute Beethoven’s Moonlight Sonata just by glancing over the sheet music! In fact, a perfect way to practice before sex with your partner is through masturbation. Using sex toys while masturbating is also a way to increase satisfaction and discover new ways to feel good.

Strengthening Communication in Your Relationship

Understanding your anatomy and personal preferences can improve your sex life for the better. In a relationship, it may be more difficult than expected to voice your likes and dislikes to your partner in the bedroom. Sex toys can be used as a way to bridge this gap nonverbally, allowing you to show your desires to your partner without apprehension.

Once your partner sees you take the lead expressing your desires, they may be inclined to express theirs to you as well. In the end, this will make sex even more pleasurable for you both and aid in maintaining a healthy stream of communication in your entire relationship.


As explained above, adding sex toys into your relationship has numerous benefits. Sex toys can assist in communication, help you to accept your body, ease performance pressure in bed, and increase pleasure. Using sex toys alone or with your partner is not something to be embarrassed by. Adding sex toys to your relationship is a valuable way to deepen the connection between you and your partner. Try bringing up the discussion around sex toys in your relationship with your partner, or try implementing some of the tips mentioned above. Also, check out our other blog to learn more about masturbation in relationships.

Featured Contents